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Dating is not a known easy experience, at any age the process of dating can be monotonous and terrifying. What of those who are just starting out? Like the lopsided newborn trying to crawl, dating for twenty somethings is beyond the average terrifying experience. I am 23 years old and have been attempting to date seriously since I was 18. I am no specialty in this case either, the majority of my friends all started dating at the same time as I, and now three years later, some are engaged, others (including me) are single, and a few are stuck in a limbo. So what is dating like in your twenties, what are the lessons learned, and how do we dust ourselves off from bad relationships and bad dates?

These are the years of firsts, in dating this is no exception. Our first love, first kiss, first time being dumped. All of these firsts are established in your twenties. This is the time to be as awkward as possible in order to fully develope into that person you are meant to become. So I begin this blog with a simple message, let yourself be awkward. Make the mistakes in dating now for the lessons you may learn from them. I'm here to to tell you it is going to be all okay. I would now like to continue by sharing stories, lessons, ideas and facts all about dating in your twenties.

Friday, May 1, 2015

Boys will be boys?

According to some research from the popular dating site Okcupid, men may not mature quite the way we'd like. Being young and twenty is a time of youthful vibrance, and of course young men will be attracted to equally young partners and vice-versa. It's all fun and dandy when we are twenty and everyone is young a beautiful, but once you're in your fifties and the boys still want to be boys it certainly may border on the edge of creepy.

Cofounder of Okcupid and researcher Christian Rudder published his book Dataclysm: Who We Are (When We Think No One's Looking, specifically researched the phenomena of man's attraction to those in their twenties. In a time's review article by Jack Linshi, he summarizes Rudder's findings, "men of all ages are by far looking for women in their early 20s." In a blog post by Rudder in 2010 he states, "a man, as he gets older, searches for relatively younger and younger women. Meanwhile his upper acceptable limit hovers only a token amount above his own age." (http://www.businessinsider.com/dataclysm-shows-men-are-attracted-to-women-in-their-20s-2014-10#ixzz3YStikxYQ).

So what exactly does this mean for dating beyond our twenties. Though it is shown that woman remain attracted to their age group as they mature the boys just seem to remain boys. I suppose hearing women complain about boys being immature won't change over time, because it turns out even beyond the twenties men still keep their interests set on younger and younger dating prospects. The reasons why are unclear, though I'm guessing it has something to do with man's attempt to maintain their own perception of masculinity. In this matter I suppose boys will be boys. A second argument may suggest that woman really are more mature. I would still humbly suggest to all you twenty something straight men, enjoy dating in your twenties, because even though you may want a 24 year old girlfriend at 65, the chances may be very slim.


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