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Dating is not a known easy experience, at any age the process of dating can be monotonous and terrifying. What of those who are just starting out? Like the lopsided newborn trying to crawl, dating for twenty somethings is beyond the average terrifying experience. I am 23 years old and have been attempting to date seriously since I was 18. I am no specialty in this case either, the majority of my friends all started dating at the same time as I, and now three years later, some are engaged, others (including me) are single, and a few are stuck in a limbo. So what is dating like in your twenties, what are the lessons learned, and how do we dust ourselves off from bad relationships and bad dates?

These are the years of firsts, in dating this is no exception. Our first love, first kiss, first time being dumped. All of these firsts are established in your twenties. This is the time to be as awkward as possible in order to fully develope into that person you are meant to become. So I begin this blog with a simple message, let yourself be awkward. Make the mistakes in dating now for the lessons you may learn from them. I'm here to to tell you it is going to be all okay. I would now like to continue by sharing stories, lessons, ideas and facts all about dating in your twenties.

Tuesday, April 28, 2015

Dating App, not so personal.

( an IBM Flickr photo/graph describing statistically truth behind online dating apps and the lack of
privacy and security they involve)


According to this refreshing list of rules for dating in your twenties, online dating is the best way to access that 'untaped resource of love.' Yet the truth of the matter is that online dating may not be all that it is cracked up to be. I have spent countless moments swiping left and right on Tinder, viewing profiles on Grindr, and have even briefly tried to discover love on Zoosk, but the truth of the matter is this may not be the best way to find real love. In MTV's hit show Catfish, main characters Nev Schulman and Max Joseph travel across the nation to help twenty something's that are using online dating to find the ones they have fallen in love with yet haven't met. In the show a Catfish is someone who, "pretend[s] to be someone [they're] not online by posting false information, such as someone else's pictures, on social media sites usually with the intention of getting someone to fall in love with you." In these instances the victims are often subject to hackers or people defined as being 'Catfish'. This TV show exemplifies the ultimate risk one takes when choosing to interact on dating apps and webpages. You don't really know who you're talking to.


As a contrasting view many believe this new online dating revolution is not only worth the risk, in the end, it will only benefit twenty year olds trying to date. Specifically according to Julie Spira of the Huffington Post, "As love continues to blend together with technology in everyday life, a variety of flavors of dating apps are helping to speed up the process for online daters." Her claim is not only are dating apps a positive thing, they are helping speed up the romantic process. So I guess despite the facts and risks, maybe online dating is worth potentially catching a Catfish or two.
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